Well John you certainly had a negative experience with that Corolla....but it sounds like you go outfoxxed by that nice little old lady.
You stated that you didn't think she even changed the oil. If true, you can't really expect much from the car. 101,000 miles on a 5 or 6 year old is not considered little old lady miles either.
Dodge also has their own sludging issues.....it's a fairly new phenomena with engines that are getting regular oi changes and still show sludge. Google Durango sludge...it's there.
Take a look at some of the recalls of the Dodge Durango. Significant problems. Wheels falling off due to ball joint failures...drivers seat fires....yeah that's an owie.
My 95 Corolla has been unbelievable and my daughter's 1998 Camry appears to be cut from the same cloth. I run Mobil 1 on everything and run at 15K intervals. I run 10K intervals on the Camry because it is one of the cars that is suppoed to be affected by sludge.
I will always attribute most of my success with vehicle longevity to keeping most repairs in-house. I keep my cars a long time, I know them and what has been done along the way because I have done the work. Too many mechanics throw parts a t cars.
One thing I will agree though....I'll be watching the quality chatter. I doesn't appear that the 8th gen can compare to the 7th gen in terms of bulletproof design. Time will tell it it was a Toyota glitch or not.
Good luck whichever way you go,
Jay in MA
Too late in the day to reply but I'll be back....I felt the same way about a 1998 Ford Ranger that I owned recently.
Don't go away John. There's a lot of general automotive info here as well.
Jay in MA