Rockauto sells hard parts, they don't sell any fluids, as far as I can see. Might have no choice but to go to the vendors the manufacturer contracts with or see if you can order some online.
Valve seals are in the cylinder head, right below the lifter bucket and valve springs, they wrap around the valve stems. They are sitting above the piston assembly, do not touch the pistons at all.
As for the drain holes being too small - that was the original concensus from owners, not Toyota. Some engines did get revised pistons with larger holes and sometimes, more holes. But those pistons look significantly different as well - some use lower tension springs to offset the increase in mass to help add more meat to drill larger holes. If this is a manufacturing issue - you'll find people on both sides of this - some blame Toyota, some blame the owners. As for the right amount of holes, right size - that is still up for debate. My gut feeling is that for most people, they will not see any consumption issues - so the engineers got it right for many, but not all owners fall into their expected usage.
Even though most owners consider themselves normal drivers, following a light duty cycle conditions - many actually drive the car close to what Toyota calls Special Operating conditions (read severe operating conditions). If I had to fault Toyota's service manual, it would be that they offered two schedules - one normal, one severe. Should have just stuck with the severe schedule, probably have less people running into issues. The maintenance schedule has a bit of leeway built in - but stuff happens. Even with my maintenance schedule, I've been sidetracked and couldn't get to some task at some point or another. So some scheduled tasks get shifted to the right and while the miles pile on.
I happen to own two of the known oil consuming engines - my 1ZZ-FE doesn't burn a drop with 205K miles on it, while my 2AZ-FE with 70K started using about a quart every 2000 or so miles, then dropped to almost nothing, but now has started back up again. Much of that I feel was attributed to the critical engine break-in procedure. My Corolla was new when I got it, drove the nuts off the car, never babied it - runs great now. The Matrix was bought lightly used, obviously didn't see any maintenance (never got a single oil change) - even going in, I knew it had a good chance to start burning oil and it did - now I've got it down to an acceptable range because I proactively attacked it with an aggressive maintenance schedule + monitored it closely.
But the bottom line - unlikely to see any relief from Toyota - they don't see it as a safety issue, just not enough people are complaining about it. When you make 100's of thousands of these engines worldwide, and only a couple of thousand reported cases coming to the dealerships - that is not enough to do anything about it. Toyota is aware of people having oil consumption, that's why there is a procedure to monitor oil consumption and ways to address it (TSBs).
As for oil and oil changes - at this point, you'll have to experiment with the car. There is no guarantee that synthetic or high mileage oil or shorter oil change intervals will have any appreciable effect on the oil consumption. Or that going back to conventional will do anything better / worse. The thing that likely hurt you was the car running low on oil in the first place. Once you see that low oil pressure lamp come on - engine has already seen some damage. No oil or additive can fix it now. Best thing to do is to keep up with the maintenance and monitor that oil level often, topping off when needed. Find a baseline for the car, establish a trend. Change one thing, monitor it again, noting any changes. Go from there.